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See yourself as the person you really are

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  Why is it we base our self image and self worth on the opinions of others ad not on our own? Why does the opinions of others count more than our own? Well they don’t, our opinion and theirs is actually equal in the grand scheme but when it comes to self image and worth our opinion is the one that matters. It doesn’t matter what others think of you as long as you are happy with who and what you are. Every one of us tend to look at our flaws both physical and personality wise more so than our good traits. This seems to be associated with our desire to belong and to be like the people we are around. The secret is even the most confident and the extremely good looking person sees flaws in both their body and in their personality.

We focus too much on the superficial exterior beauty of our bodies and the illusion of being popular and or charismatic. When in fact we all have the same potential and the same feelings inside as each other. We let other peoples opinions and ideals of what beauty and popularity should be that we miss the truth. Each one of us is beautiful and each of us are unique and special. The way we look and or the financial status we hold has nothing to do with our true potential and our true self. There are those who go out of there way to bring torment and chaos to others so to give them the illusion of being above those they torment. If they succeed in making someone look lower than them they can live in the illusion of being better and above. Usually this will backfire in the end and they will find themselves alone and depressed. Beware of those kind of people they are so sad and angry inside they rarely escape the vicious cycle they have started.

Then there is the people out there that take blame for everything that happens to them and those around them without just cause or reason. They have so little self worth and self esteem they blame themselves for everything because they don’t think they deserve any better. Usually this type of person has the kindest of hearts and has been abused emotionally to the point they have no self-esteem. They usually pull themselves out of this in time but a few hold on to it through their life. They need to embrace who they are and love the kindness and compassion they have deep within.

  We are all born equal and we all die equal, thus its common sense that we all are equal in life as well. The illusions of beauty, social status and popularity is a creation of the worlds mindset. The power that some seem to have over others is an illusion propagated by both the one with the so called power and those he controls. It takes the belief in something to make it a reality, even illusions have strength in reality if enough people believe in it. This is how cults grow and gain power over its followers. No matter what one says, you have the power and the ability to do almost anything you desire and no one but you can make you happy or content.

See yourself as the person you really are and make the choices to make that person who you want it to be not that others want. Find happiness in who you are and who you will become. Embrace the power of freewill god has given you and use it to make yourself what you see as the ideal you. Once you do, you will see how many will love you as who you are and how those that don’t will not matter to you or your life.

Well enough Rambling for now

Ray Barbier.

July 27th, 2010 Posted by rbarbier1967 | Random Thoughts | no comments

Waste not one minute of your day with worry or regret!

tpl_7_ppl   There are times in our lives where we feel worn down and alone in the world. Like all is lost and hope is nowhere to be found. The despair we feel is brought on by our belief we have no control over the situation we are in. Though dark clouds fill our skies there is still sunshine above those clouds trying to get through. In times like these we are our own worst enemy because we seem to embrace the depression and hold on to the pain because we lost all hope. The only way we can save ourselves from such despair is to embrace hope and have faith while facing the darkness and reaching for the sun.

  Faith is a great healer and a great champion of God, He gave us faith as a way to overcome the darkness in this world and to give us strength to face our own weaknesses. I believe he has given us the ability to rise above and to face head on almost any situation that can arise in life if we keep faith in him and in our own selves. Hope, faith, charity, compassion and love are the keys to a happier life. Every night is blessed for you have made it through another day. Every morning is blessed because you live yet another day to try and be a better person and to find happiness.

  A good thing is everything has its time and then must pass, so any depression , sadness or suffering you may be facing will have to pass in time. How fast it  will pass is up to how much you either embrace it or how hard you fight against it. The more you fight against it the quicker it will fade. Just like when we were children and bad things would happen, we would deal with it and have sorrow but then move on quickly to the next day leaving it behind us. When we were children we lived for the day and not in the past or for the future. We truly lived life how it was meant to be back then. No sorrow, anger or despair would follow us longer than a few days and then we would move on with life.

  It seems as we grow older we become obsessed with the past and fearful of the future to the point we forget to live here in the now. All the mistakes we made in the past seem more important than the grace of having life today. The future we fear because we know not what it may contain for us. We can not change the past so we should forgive our mistakes of the days gone by and embrace the wisdom we have gained from the experiences we had. We can not see what may come in the future but we have the power to mold the future by the choices we make in the present. So fear not the future and make the choices that can make you a brighter one.

Carpe Diem – Seize the Moment and live here in the present. Be yourself and enjoy the day given to you to live. Waste not one minute of your day with worry or regret!

Peace
R. Barbier

July 27th, 2010 Posted by rbarbier1967 | Random Thoughts | no comments